tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24067464.post2064689567941635120..comments2019-08-17T03:50:38.040-07:00Comments on i am hope: personal, personnelA M B E Rhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01568015218380741354noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24067464.post-47088557578645842692012-10-24T10:59:17.918-07:002012-10-24T10:59:17.918-07:00Thank you all for your kind words. There is always...Thank you all for your kind words. There is always a part of me that doesn't want to publish these things, to keep my blog full of cheery stuff. But then I wouldn't want to write my blog, and neither would it be the kind *I* would want to read. So. I tackle what's really going on in my life, as much as I can.<br /><br />Evelina, thanks for the recommendation. I've seen that book, and read some about it, and now I have a good reason to go get it. Interestingly, I did remember one book that talked about housekeepers and such in a way that was oddly useful--given that the book was set in the 14th century--Sigrid Undset's *Kristin Lavransdatter*. Kristin had to deal with the staff at the manor where she lived after marrying, and the book actually gives relational details about how she did this. Curious.<br /><br />Your idea about someone younger is good too. A M B E Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01568015218380741354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24067464.post-57679024712553421172012-10-23T01:12:07.926-07:002012-10-23T01:12:07.926-07:00Hi Amber, I follow your blog and I really enjoy th...Hi Amber, I follow your blog and I really enjoy the Photo Friday, as well as the Poetry Wednesday. Beautiful, simple, and encouraging. <br /><br />As I read this post of yours, I immediately remembered the only novel I know where the topic of the relation to the staff in modern America is somehow tackled. It's Zadie Smith's On Beauty. I definitely recommend it.<br /><br />I personally prefer young babysitters (like students), girls younger than me - I think that people are more naturally inclined to "obey" to others on the basis of age difference than by the fact that they are paid. <br />I wish you luck with the next nanny and I hope that the next will be the right one! Evelinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01233300600551324070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24067464.post-82675528242376133252012-10-21T13:23:53.513-07:002012-10-21T13:23:53.513-07:00Amber,
I so respect your courage and honesty. Yes...Amber,<br /><br />I so respect your courage and honesty. Yes! having household help is not just a luxury but also a risk, because these people enter into very vulnerable places and they must be worthy of our trust. You found that A. wasn't, and you acted. Your boundaries are sound and you are teaching me, more and more, how to establish my own firm boundaries. Thank you.Jenny Schroedelhttp://www.jenschroedel.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24067464.post-9745757202967654572012-10-20T15:38:02.836-07:002012-10-20T15:38:02.836-07:00I love your openness here, Amber. These type of c...I love your openness here, Amber. These type of circumstances and experiences are difficult ones for anyone. But because, you being a 'somewhat' private person in many ways, this is heartbreaking to me that you have to go through this. <br /><br />I was wondering why no one was commenting! (I emailed my response). Then I called you and learned your close friends were supporting you by phone calls/emails also. :-) Good. <br /> <br />I went online looking for chat rooms where other mother's might have similar experiences to yours, and instead hooked up with a domestic service site that gave the other side - horror stories on behalf of domestics...you are a goddess compared to what I read. <br /><br />We have to make tough decisions for the sake of our children - yours was painful and awkward but right on.<br /><br />Good decision, dear. Thank you for sharing so honestly.Lynda Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02364765504828392647noreply@blogger.com